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saying no. {the little word that did wonders for my soul…}

No all that long ago, I read these words…

“Out of necessity I am choosier with my time, more intentional with my daily rhythms. And I’m discovering how a well-placed no reopens and renews the creative parts of my heart. But more than that, it lifts restrictions so I can more freely enjoy…

and I thought…I want that.  I want to “freely enjoy”.  Whatever it is…I want to enjoy it.

No sooner did I read it, then I felt the all too familiar overwhelming feeling threatening to take the hope of this away from me.  When facing my creative side and my people pleasing nature, saying no can feel like the scariest thing in the world.  How will this look if I say “no”?  Surely people won’t approve, I’ll let people down.  I can’t be a good photographer, ministry leader, friend etc…if I say no…can I?  But honestly, this concept has been knocking at my door for quite some time now.  I have hit the wall of over commitment and unmet expectations {a few times actually}.  I hit it hard and found myself reeling from it’s effects.  I found myself not enjoying anymore.  Reading this spoke to my heart and convinced me that something had to be done.   I kept turning my attention to a key part of that phrase…”a well placed no reopens and renews…”  not just my creative side, but all the things in me that so easily become overwhelmed and get lost when I put the focus more on what I do instead of who I am.

“With our garnered free time, we are more apt to drain our creative springs than to refill them. With our pitchers, we attempt sometimes to water a field, not a garden.”  ~ Anne Morrow Lindbergh, Gift from the Sea

I had to admit to myself that I am human.  I need boundaries as much as anyone else.  I can’t be all things to all people.  I need to be okay with that.  But there ARE people who need me to be the best I can be for them.  I thought about what saying “no” would look like for me, and as hard as it was…I forced myself to set some boundaries in place that has started me on a path to renewal.

I quickly discovered that most times it has less to do with saying no to people…it’s often more about saying no to myself.  “No” to the thoughts and feelings I place on myself about what I am NOT when I do say no.  Also, “no” to the mindset that saying no is only limiting me. I’m recognizing that saying no is allowing me to say yes to something {because in all reality, it is impossible to say yes to everything}.   Believe me, the last thing I want to do is to disappoint anyone, but I guess sometimes I may have to…I really hope though, if I do, in the end you want this for me.  Because I want a whole version of myself, and I want it for you too!  We are all so different, and I’m sure not everyone struggles with this.  If you don’t…I can’t tell you how awesome that is!  I have envied you for quite some time.  Keep living in that freedom of balance!!  I have to say though, I’m certainly not the first to write about this, it’s everywhere {evidenced by the fact that it has crossed my path to the point where I couldn’t ignore it}.  So, I write not to compete or share any new earth shattering concept, but to stand in agreement.  To rise up, applaud, and say “YES!”…stand with me!  Because what good are any of us if we can only offer a small overwhelmed portion of who God created us to be.  I can’t even describe to you the difference I felt the minute I gave myself permission.  That overwhelming feeling I had about doing certain things I still firmly believe God has gifted and called me to do…lighter…free…ready to dive back in {with new boundaries of course}.

We are soaking up every bit of summer we can and the time that I have been able to give my family and friends has been so refreshing!  I’m totally going to have to consider a “summer recap” post…but here are just a few of the things I’ve been ridiculously excited to say yes to lately…

growing our own herbs!  me!?!? I know!!  what!?!? but seriously, L.O.V.E.

going to the farmer’s market.  fresh fare.  the.best.

going to the lake.  i just don’t think I need to say any more. happy.heart.

AND a pretty sweet blog update, would you agree??  I’m SO in love with it!!  I used to write more, and I liked it…I realized I kinda miss it. What better way to renew that, than to write about who I am and what I do on this blog?  Yes, it’s a photography blog…but realizing I am a wife, mom, daughter, sister, aunt {for the first time very soon!!}, & friend first will in turn, {I believe} make me a better photographer {amongst other things}. Because, I deserve it…my boys deserve it…YOU deserve it.  The best version of me I can be.

So a new section on the blog…”the gregg family” where {if you care to} you will find all things gregg.  My thoughts, my photos, my boys, my dog, my family and friends…my life.  Hope you enjoy.

Quotes from a blog post at (in)courage by Kristen Strong 

http://www.incourage.me/2014/07/how-to-say-no-with-confidence-not-guilt.html

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